Who Needs a Spanking? (Alexia's Books)

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I ordinarily wouldn’t spank a child that old, but I might change my mind if they did something really bad. This wasn’t me — but spanking should not happen on bare skin, it is a way to get their attention, not to hurt them. If you feel that you absolutely must spank your child, bend them over your knee and spank them on the buttocks, being sure to avoid their coccyx, genitals, and kidneys.

Properly understood and administered, spanking is most effective as a deterrent to undesirable behavior for younger preschoolers (but never for infants). Taylor notes: “Just as you wouldn’t go into talk therapy with your partner [as your therapist], it’s best not to try spanking therapy with your partner. Parents are letting technology raise their kids, as two-parent households often have both parents working and little face-to-face time between parents and kids. Children who are spanked often have a greater risk of low self‐esteem, aggression, lying, cheating, depression and bullying. Done with love, followed by guidance/teaching and respect, which are some of the 7 Traits of Effective Parenting.And, picturing our poor moms, dads, and grandparents having to spank us – we now being in their position – we feel for them and recognize how hard it must have been. The spanking should be mildly uncomfortable but not painful, so make sure to listen to the child's responses, to know if you are hitting too hard.

The Oxford Learner’s Dictionary’s definition of spanking is “a series of hits on the bottom, given to somebody, especially a child, as a punishment.The child may not have realized that what they did was wrong, or maybe you misunderstood what happened. When spanking comes from a place of anger, or even reaches the point of sounding threatening, our children are justifiably scared. As a “recovering yeller” and a Certified Positive Discipline Instructor, Amy is a champion of positive parenting techniques for happier families and well-behaved kids.