My ex-husband and I were together for five years and married for one and a half years. He got a job at a hotel in another town with his brother-in-law doing maintenance. He got me a job there every other weekend in housekeeping. All of the housekeepers were female. Two of them made me suspicious, but I shook it off as jealousy." I was always going to the pub for after-work drinks,’ says Catherine, ‘because I wanted to see the coworker I fancied.’ I have suffered with what I have called anxiety my entire life: over things big, small, and in-between. I would lose sleep, change eating habits, and worry about things non-stop. I could control it, however. As a child, I was touched inappropriately at school by another girl. This sent me into a whirlwind of another kind of anxiety…one that I could not seem to control…and it made me begin to have intrusive thoughts of my being gay. Of course, I did not know that they were called intrusive thoughts, and I did not seek therapy. I just handled it until I convinced myself that I wasn’t. When I became of dating age, that was confirmed. I was very interested in boys and they were very interested in me. Fast-forward a few months, I ended up transferring to his theater and found out that he had been cheating on me with her for a few weeks. Pretty much everyone knew about it, including that they would have sex in the parking lot while he was waiting for me to get off work.

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I agree. My OCD was more severe than most of the cases i read about. The mental argument and pre-occupation was almost constant until i was almost suicidal. I think it was the overwhelming need to resolve the feeling that somethings not right, which at the time was life consuming. We can assign any theme to that feeling. We spend an immense amount of time with work colleagues, affairs are unavoidable,’ she says. ‘Experiencing problems at home? Work can feel like an escape and opening up to co-workers only reinforces that bond. when changing a baby’s diaper once I had a bad thought fly through my head and felt really bad about it Hi Raven, Ahhh the dreaded ‘what ifs.’ The phrase ‘what if’ is one of the biggest OCD tip offs I know. Surely anything that follows will be one of the limitless I initially thought they were both single, and I thought, More power to them! They'd be cuddling in the glam trailer, sneaking off during lunch, and arriving to and from set together so everybody thought it was just another show-mance.

I have fooled my female coworkers so many times and have got them to send pictures of their feet. There is skinny Indian girl in my office who leaves her footwear under her desk daily. I cum on her shoes every day after the office hours. A while later, he heard I was job hunting and let me know that there was a position open at a new place that he thought I’d be perfect for. It was right up my alley, and I took it immediately. It put us working closely together again. People can react differently when they’re having an affair,’ notes Hayley. ‘Some may try to “make it up’ to you with unexpected romantic gestures, others will become withdrawn, some may even accuse you of being unfaithful.’

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I ended up filing for divorce soon after the affair started. I wouldn't probably do it again. I am in a happy marriage now with another man, and I can't imagine cheating. I'm happy that I cheated at that point in my life, though. It got me out of a toxic and abusive marriage. I was reading a news article about a kidnapping on my phone before bed. I had a thought that I didn’t want to keep the article open in my phone overnight. Weaver Stephanie – The Migraine Relief Plan: An 8-Week Transition to Better Eating, Fewer Headaches, and Optimal HealthOne weekend as I was heading over to meet up with him, I got a text that his girlfriend had found out and he had to cancel. It all stopped soon after that. I then left my job and cut all ties. His marriage was failing, and so was mine. I was in the process of trying to extricate myself from a violent marriage, all the while knowing that leaving is the most dangerous time for a battered spouse. He began actively pursuing me almost as soon as he separated from his wife. Great article, it just makes me deeply upset to learn that these thoughts will never actually go away, and that basically, there is no real cure for OCD yet. As a severe OCD sufferer, this is a very unsettling bit of news, I only pray that within my lifetime a cure is actually found for this demonic condition. He made me feel loved and beautiful. He made me feel like I mattered and my feelings mattered. It made me see that there was nothing wrong with me and I could be wanted by someone else and I wasn't the awful person my ex had convinced me that I was. We’ve been married for years now, and the affair was the best thing I ever did for myself and for my kids. He’s an amazing dad and the kind of husband I couldn’t have even imagined a decade ago. I have regrets, but none about the affair that led to our eventual marriage."

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What an excellent post!!! I loved reading the details of some of your bizarre thoughts. I have OCD too, and though many therapists have said “everyone has OCD” and then they give almost “trite” examples – providing the specifics really humanizes the experience. Thank you. This was really well written. About a year and a half after working together, I got divorced. It took about two months after that when we were texting about work, he said he’d love to talk in person. I dropped my phone because I was so stunned. We had never crossed a line, but I was SO excited. I was in love with him already. When he and I made a delivery together, he admitted to me that he was attracted to me and was interested in a sexual relationship, but I told him at the time that I would never physically act on that so long as I was in a relationship with my girlfriend. I have had Ocd for twenty years. How do I learn to accept if not embrace dirt? I don’t fear germs so much as hate dirt, urine, etc. Thought of not washing after petting dog or touching knob causes much anxiety. Cant even hug my wife till she showers. He broke up with me once I found out, and it was by far the messiest breakup I have ever had. He laid on the floor of my room in the fetal position with snot running down his face because he 'felt so guilty' about cheating on me. I eventually just told him to leave.My name is Candy (not my actual name) and I live in Borgnine Avenue (not actually my adress) and I work for SOB Enterprises (not my actual job). And in this blog I will tell you about me and my problems, my adventures, and of course my misadventures. Hope you can all keep up. I thought I would spend a couple weeks recording my incoming, bizarre thoughts so that I can demonstrate how these thoughts may not be so out of the ordinary after all. So here goes: My OCD keeps telling me that it is not false. Not irrational. After all, you know that doorknob is dirty, since people have touched it, with dirty hands–ergo, you will dirty your hands by touching it. So go wash them. I have OCD and have had some CBT in the past but the one worry that keeps plaguing me is sometimes I will think “did I think that thought on purpose?”. As I understand it, intrusive thoughts are involuntary so I worry a lot that maybe I thought the thought on purpose and it was voluntary. Is this something I should not worry about as it is just another symptom of OCD? They say all the time that I don’t love my bf and I find only flaws in him. But at the same time I do not want to break up with him.he means so much to me!

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I finally started to ask why she was coming up so much and expressed some discomfort with their relationship, and he broke up with me (two weeks after we moved). Immediately afterward, I got confirmation that he had been cheating on me with her. Hi Stacey, many thanks for your reply, I really appreciate it. I notice that you say that you do skype sessions. Would this be a possibility? I have provided my e mail if you could get in touch. Many thanks I often feel that I do not have OCD because its only about the relationship… But obviously I have the excact symptoms that its described.Hello…I’ve been a obsessive person for many years.But not compulsions.My obsessions reinforce themselves without the compulsions.I don’t understand why.I have all kind of obsessions: about harming myself, harming my family, religon related, sexual orientation,about being able to success, about dying.Many diferent kind of obsessions.It’s vey hard to undestand them.They cause too much distress, pain, agony, suffering and to much anxiety..I hope somebody has some information for helping about my situation… When I have been holding a baby (fully clothed) I have thought ‘what if I hurt this baby?’ sexually or physically by dropping the child