Whether they are spoken or unspoken, listed or simply known, a woman always has rules for her man. In a FLR, those rules are not only unquestioned, they are more important and unbreakable than ever. You don't need to be told what those rules are, they are yours to make, and only you know what rules are right for you. Keep them simple at first, you can always add more over time. For women with their men in chastity, so much more is possible in terms of rules and controlling their men. Presented here are some common types of rules, some more basic and some more advanced, that you might wish to include in your rule book. As always, remember that the more you dominate, the more his submission, and the greater the rewards. Seriously, one of the first things stated is that these rules should be negotiated with the sub and that they should be customized to YOUR dynamic. This article covers many types of dynamics, which is likely why you think the rules are “porn driven” and not just a different dynamic. My dynamic is purely sexual, so I’m sure my list would make you think the same.

When I started on my journey to being a dominant and looking for submissive women to date, I wasn’t sure what basic rules for a sub I should be using? Being dominant is as much about self-control as it is about control of the scene. You need to make sure that you don’t get carried away and that you’re someone your partner can trust at all times. Stepping outside of the boundaries you’ve agreed on can instantly destroy that trust. Essential BDSM Toys, Tools, and Props for Doms Some of the rules for the sub were not compatible with my style of play. As an example, a basic rule for a submissive slave-style relationship might be:

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There’s a certain liberty that comes with completely giving up control like that. The sub doesn’t have to think about anything other than following instructions. They don’t have to worry about how good the sex is for their partner; they just have to do as they’re told. As such, they can fully let go of any anxiety or worry and lose themselves in the moment. The Thrill of Fear, Degradation, and Pain How you train your sub is up to you. Whether you rule through rewards or punishments comes down to what you and your sub prefer and the kind of power exchange you’re trying to act out. 8. Experiment With Impact Play If your submissive has been practising BDSM for years, then what she considers a basic sub rule is probably going to be different from what a beginner submissive deems basic. Power roles are an important component of eroticism. Sex is intrinsically linked with our ideas of power, and this link between power and sex is omnipresent in our culture. You’ll need to talk to your partner about how you’re going to carry out those power roles in your everyday life and set out expectations. You can’t completely deprive your sub of agency or power, so you might have to ‘tone down’ the roles you usually play in the bedroom.

When it comes to punishment, your FLR is very different from mine. I do get penalties. With the whip, the paddle or the cane if violent offenses have occurred. Masturbation or lying would be something like that, for example. Then it will really hurt. My wife gets great satisfaction when I beg to stop and vow to do better. Above all, she enjoys the power to comply or not to comply with my begging. Unfortunately, she feels just as comfortable in the role of the kind as in the role of the unimpressed. The latter more often. I want her to ENJOY following the rules (remember being a dominant is not just about serving yourself) which is why these discussions and good communication is important.Although there is many stimulating parts of pegging that your man will enjoy it may be hard for him to accept at first. This is where your dominance comes out. It won't be comfortable for him at first, after all you have to break down all those societal taboos. If done right though he will begin to crave it as a sign of your dominance and he will even enjoy it. My style of dominance is less S&M and more caring, nurturing, whilst also incorporating elements of service, and a strong sex element. Don’t take things too far and get carried away. The psychological aspect of impact play is the most important part; any actual pain inflicted should be minimal. Serious pain is not a turn on for anyone.

I will inform Him via text of any orgasms I have without Him straight afterwards, and what I fantasised about. Arguing that using the same syntax is RIGHT. excuse me where did I write that you were wrong. What I wrote is comes off as if subs are stupid. BDSM rules should be set which serve to sustain and grow this dynamic, and both parties are benefiting from, not just the Dom. The sub willingly gives up control because they enjoy being submissive. The key term here is willingly . The sub still has the ultimate control and gets to set his/her limits and boundaries beforehand — they have the final say about what you can/can’t do. As a Dom, it’s essential that you respect those boundaries. Littles — this category of submission involves subs that enjoy age play. They tend to roleplay younger age behaviors and want their Doms to act as caregivers. They might enjoy giving their Dom the title ‘Daddy.’If the man is expecting Her to do all of this then it is really missing the point. In FLRs, the power dynamic shifts so that the Women is in charge. However, this doesn’t mean that She has to now take co I know all about growing so I need a complete stranger female or male deciding and then writing things trying to cancel me out .

Service-oriented submission — these kinds of subs enjoy playing the role of servant and pleasing their masters. They thrive off validation, enjoy rules, and like to make their Doms happy. Popular scenes for service subs include cooking and cleaning for their Doms. If your thought is for me. To be embarrassed , wrong. I have experience in the LS. 8 years , I thouroughly read people’s writings and let me add that I usually read everything someone wrote (all the pieces unless I can not get through it all in one sitting) before I comment. So.thayni can get a sense of that person.Imagine sex was like this: you get to do exactly what you want, when you want, at all times. You tell your partner what you want them to do, or what you’re going to do to them, and they willingly oblige. You’re in total control and all-powerful. You get to use your partner exclusively for your own pleasure, and they worship you for it. That is true slavery. For any man who still wishes to be an acceptable husband slave to their Domme hotwife, or for a dominant wife with a submissive husband who has said he wishes to be her total slave, there is a specific code to be followed. Dominated by Mistress in her live Mistress cam room Whilst I might set this as a rule if I was to run a high protocol BDSM scene as a one-off, it isn’t something I would want enforced all day every day.