It’s important to put your own happiness first and not let someone else dictate what your life should be like. There is no doubt that we are always searching for a certain quality in our future partner, and often this quality comes with a price. Also, there is the Marriage of Feeling, which is part of the Marriage of Instinct. This one dictates that one shouldn’t think too much about why one is marrying. It takes a lot of time and work to be able to accept that you will be making mistakes, and lots of them during your lifetime, and that is completely okay. If you’re with someone who doesn’t seem to be your best friend, then it’s time to reevaluate what that means to you and whether or not the chemistry is worth it.

Marriage of Psychology. Одним з перших питань до партнера на етапі ранніх стосунків має стати: "And how are you mad?" The author discusses why we go for the non-compatible partners, what are the true signs that one is ready for "I do" and why this damn Romanticism with all of the Bridget Jonses', Disney stories and Nicolas Sparkses' which should help us in simulating the experiences (and safely experience or prepare for something) but which in reality "do not give us a correct map of love, leaving us unprepared to deal adequately with the difficulties of being in a couple".Kita menikah dengan seseorang karena ingin membekukan momen-momen bahagia. Mungkin ini juga sebabnya, ada beberapa keluhan dari orang yang sudah menikah: pasanganku gak seperti waktu pacaran/bulan madu dulu. Kita berharap ia terus menjadi orang yang baik dan manis, dan romantis setiap harinya. Padahal sama seperti kita, dia juga menjalani hidup; bekerja, berpotensi burnout, bisa merasakan emosi, ada saatnya sedih, banyak pikiran, etc. Marriage doesn’t freeze the moment at all. That moment was dependent on the fact that you had only known each other for a bit, that you weren’t working, that you were staying in a beautiful hotel near the Grand Canal, that you’d had a pleasant afternoon in the Guggenheim museum, that you’d just had a chocolate gelato… If you’re looking for the truth about relationships, then take your time and don’t rush things. Take time to get to know yourself and your needs The right ones feels unfamiliar and alien, almost oppressive. Not because they are wrong, but precisely because they are too well-balanced, too right. 4. Being Single Is so Awful If you’re with someone who doesn’t make you feel the most comfortable in your own skin, then it’s time to learn how to be yourself and let go of any baggage about your past relationships.

We marry wrongly because don’t — whatever we may say — ultimately associate being loved with feeling satisfied. Before we get married, we are likely to have had many years of turbulence in our love lives. We have tried to get together with people who didn’t like us, we’ve started and broken up unions, we’ve gone out for endless parties, in the hope of meeting someone, and known excitement and bitter disappointments.Pada bab-bab terakhir juga dibahas bagaimana pengaruh novel atau cerita fiksi romantis dalam kehidupan percintaan manusia --sadar atau tanpa mereka sadari. Image by freepik.com — Free Photo | Free photo medium shot girl holding broken drawing (freepik.com) PDF / EPUB File Name: Why_You_Will_Marry_the_Wrong_Person_-_The_School_of_Life.pdf, Why_You_Will_Marry_the_Wrong_Person_-_The_School_of_Life.epub This has been the second book from "The School of Life" I'd read (The Great Thinkers being the other). I must say that I very much like the accessibility and style with which their books, including this one, are put together. You can meet someone who’s going to bring you so much joy, but if you don’t have time to enjoy that person, then think about finding someone else who will be a better match for you.